Self-soothing allows us to step back and identify what we need at the moment to regulate our mind and body when we are experiencing overwhelm. Self-soothing can help us take control of a situation in which we feel out of control.

Let’s dive into some ways we can approach self-soothing.

Learn Your Triggers

We all have different types of triggers. When we know our triggers, we are better able to anticipate them and respond to them when we become triggered. Creating a relationship with our triggers allows us to develop awareness and coping mechanisms to deal with them. 

Physically Relax Your Body

Often when we are triggered or overwhelmed, we don’t realize how much strain and stress we are carrying in our bodies. We tighten our chests, breathe more shallowly, tense up the muscles in our face and shoulders, etc. 

When you realize you need to self-soothe, a good first step is always to take a deep breath and let your face, shoulders, and chest physically relax. Often making this physical decision helps our headspace as well. 

What Can Self-Soothing Look Like? 

Self-soothing can look different for everyone and all ways are valid. Here are some ways you can try self-soothing. The most important thing is figuring out what works best for you!

• Slow, deep breathing

• Taking a bath

• Stretching

• Going for a walk

• Removing yourself from the situation

• Spending time with a loved one

• Spending time with a pet

• Talking it out

• Spending time doing something you love like drawing, writing, cooking, listening to a podcast, etc. 

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