Do you ever feel like your relationship just isn’t what it used to be? Maybe you don’t understand what happened or is happening to attribute to this lackluster relationship existence together. Do you feel like the spark or the energy is missing? Are you both bored? 

But you love each other! It’s just… not what it used to be. This is what some of us call “Relationship Burnout.” 

Signs of Relationship Burnout

Boredom

Things that you both used to look forward to seem more like a chore than anything. This could pertain to sex, cooking together, and spending time together relaxing. You could feel like there’s nothing “bad” happening but there’s nothing to look forward to. You could be feeling stuck and in a lull. You may struggle to WANT to put effort into the relationship at this point. 

Feeling Unimpressed

Those little quirks you used to love about your partner could feel like flaws more than quirks now. You may feel unsurprised by anything your partner does because you have both fallen into habits without making much effort for anything else other than your day-to-day routines. 

Instead of feeling excited, you feel underwhelmed, unimpressed, and annoyed. The person you fell in love with may seem different. At this point, you may be worrying about the future of your connection with your partner. 

Disengagement

This can happen in various avenues like intentional time together, social events, mutual connections becoming more distant, you aren’t considering each other as much in your day-to-day lives, etc. maybe you don’t turn to talk to your partner about things you would have in the past because you just don’t care to put as much effort in to make them happy at this point.

Doubts

Are you regularly questioning whether this person is the “right” person for you? Do you daydream about other people or being single?

Lack of Patience for Each Other

You groan, nag, snap, and berate each other over and over again, talking about changing and never actually doing it. This lack of patience allows resentment and animosity to build in your relationship. 

Relationships Take Work. 

Every relationship has its ups and downs and can benefit from relationship therapy. See all of our relationship therapy services or contact us to schedule a consultation.